Photo by Helene Cotton
This weekend I turned 30 and I’m over the moon excited and so ready to enter this new decade. Not to put any pressure on it, but I have a strong feeling my 30’s are going to be more amazing than my 20’s could’ve ever hoped to be. I’m not sure why everyone is so scared to leave their 20’s? Frankly, I’ve found this past decade to be somewhat unnerving. I mean you get out of school and everyone is like, ok, you studied something random for four years, now go and be a productive part of society, ok?! I mean entering the workforce at exactly the moment the economy took a dive has been interesting, to say the least. Plus, apparently I’m a millennial, I get that now and am actually ok with it thanks to this new podcast, the most recent episode, ‘Screw it, I’m going outside,’ basically sums up my career path thus far.
Thirty feels like the age of wisdom, maybe the path will begin to become clear, maybe not, and that feels more ok. NOTHING IS A STRAIGHT LINE! I trust that every step I take and every person I meet is moving me in the right direction.
I have to say, though, when I wrote down everything that I accomplished in my 20’s I realized two things:
- I’m really hard on myself. It’s never enough. Why do we do this (ladies, I’m looking at you)?
- I actually accomplished a lot and I’m pretty proud of it.
- I spend too much time comparing and that is pointless!
30 events that have transpired and lessons I’ve learned in the last decade that have helped shaped me:
- Lived in NYC for five glorious years
- Worked in theatre in NYC and saw more shows than I can count
- Travelled to Spain and Tokyo on my own on my first big adventure that forever changed me
- Switched career paths and left theatre to find my calling in health and wellness
- Worked for several amazing companies including Wanderlust, Integrative Nutrition and now sweetgreen making friends for life and gaining amazing experience
- Met and married a really cool guy that I met in a night club through odd circumstances. The odds were probably against us, but I love him more than ever and we’ve been married five years in August!
- Got married in Montauk on the beach
- Travelled a ton with above mentioned dude and have had a million incredible experiences with him in Australia, Indonesia, France, Spain, Italy, Greece, Japan, Thailand, Hawaii, Mexico and more states than I can count.
- Learned that travelling and experiences are the best things to spend money on
- Learned that obsessing over food gets you nowhere, balance is everything
- Became a health coach
- Quit smoking
- Lost my Grandma to cancer
- Moved coasts twice
- Welcomed my niece Anjali into the world
- Welcomed my baby sister August into the World and embraced my modern family
- Supported my Mom through recovery and my sister through pregnancy
- Went to Thailand to deepen my yoga practice and get certified
- Taught yoga at my home studio and others in Brooklyn
- Did the AIDS walk every year that I lived in NYC
- I actually get paid to write for amazing companies and people- what?!
- Built this blog and am writing for so many others that I don’t get to write here enough
- Wrote a musical about dance music culture
- Danced on stage at Red Rocks twice
- Danced on stages all over NYC and Denver
- Completed the full Landmark Education program
- Became a dog mama (twice!)
- Worked at Wanderlust festivals around the US and Canada, practiced with the greatest teachers and made the most amazing connections and friends
- Realized the importance of keeping the good people close and losing the ones that don’t build you up, inspire you and help you grow.
- Learned the importance of self-care!
This exercise of looking back was really powerful for me and a great reminder that we never give ourselves enough credit, never appreciate all of the work that we’re doing, all of the growth that we’re experiencing, all of the lives we’re impacting. Is every day perfect? No! Not by a long shot. Honestly, some days I want to just give up, I get worn out and anxious, I wonder what all of the hard work is for, but it’s coming, I know it is, and it’s so exciting to think about the possibilities.
In my 30’s I’d like to give back more, find a company that I can really grow with (or create my own), extend our family, become a gardener, spend more time with friends and so much more TBD…